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Avoidant attachment
Has Joseph ever spoke on attachment style? How do we navigate around this? My sp has DA attachment let’s say characteristics. I don’t know if I can unsee this in him. He goes hot and cold with me he reaches out makes plans and ghost me the next day. I don’t really know how to handle this besides going to the end and him not being that way. But I lack faith in him changing bc the circumstances are so real. Any insight.
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MAIN POINT: It might also be a self-esteem or self-image issue rather than attachment style. Potentially even something else. EXPLANATION: I am a 32-year-old adult male but am physically significantly underdeveloped. So I never quite became a "man". Because of this, I have a major psychological complex that shuts me down and pushes potential partners away once the romantic or sexual attention is placed on me. This includes both if it is only towards me or if the interest is reciprocated. What makes this more difficult is that I am (by far) the most romantically/sexually attracted to the MEN with the development which I lack. This creates a 1-to-1 comparative wound (that opposite-sex attraction couldn't create), which in turn becomes "comparative evisceration". The hatred of my body and its underdevelopment destroy my ability to pair-bond or get very far at bedroom intimacy. The stronger the interest and compliments received, the worse I feel and the more I reject myself.
I would try your best not to attach labels unless it helps you live in the end. My partner was never avoidant until I started repeating it so much. It's tough, once it's stuck in your mind. I would work on SATs when you are calm to revise his actions or memories to help you feel secure. Remember now is in your imagination too! Don't fret if you spiraled before u got this now.